Everything in the world has a base from which it is necessary to build up so that objects or images become clear. For a person, such a base is a sense of its value, independent of external factors. Only by finding it, you can become yourself.
Self -prismaging is a complete acceptance of oneself. Sensation of inner harmony, integrity, self -confidence. This concept is often confused with self -esteem, but the difference is great. Unlike self -esteem, the self -worth cannot change on the abandoned word or comment, does not depend on
the sphere of activity, appearance, weight or health.
Unfortunately, parents, school, society bring up people with low self-worth in us: we often do not accept ourselves as we are, try to become someone else. This leads to neurosis, attempts to go beyond which you cannot go out, or rejection of yourself. Inability to accept and love himself can result in serious diseases. And this applies not only to our mental health.
You have problems with self -worth if:
- You depend on the opinions of others.
- You are often not confident in yourself.
- In order to feel good, you need others to feel good.
- Working with others, you are primarily focusing on their results: “to be better”, “to be no worse”, “I cannot like them”.
- There are always factors that do not allow you to be satisfied with yourself.
Everything is good with you with self -worth if:
- The opinions of others about you are not too important: it can be taken into account, to draw useful information, but no more.
- At any time you are confident in yourself. Failures and good luck do not bother you very much: you feel that everything goes as it should. Annoying factors you try to take into account or perceive as a task.
- Surrounding (relatives, friends, colleagues) an important part of your life. You help them solve problems, but do not depend on them completely.
- Working with others, you adequately perceive and accept yourself. You will not try to overtake the world champion, but run in full force and will compete with your own results, gradually improving them.
- There are no factors that could get you out or make you feel worse.
Why do you need self -worth
It will seem to someone that a person with developed self-worth is an egoist who lives only for himself. But this is not so: the egoist always lacks something, and he compensates for this shortage at the expense of others.
A harmonious person living in peace with himself does not expect anything from others, but he never refuses gifts of fate. And he shares out of a feeling of fullness, not sacrificing himself.
People reach such harmonious people. This is due to the feeling of internal confidence that only appears in those who really know how to love themselves, to accept themselves as they are.
Most often it is a fruit of many years of work on oneself. Most often, people who have realized their self -worth are found among the elderly. They have nowhere else to hurry, no one to compete with, they accept themselves and are ready to live with this. Next to them is calm and comfortable. Loved ones feel that they will not meet rebuff, jokes or rejection.
Still, starting to work on self -worth is desirable as early as possible. The easiest way to do this is when you feel incomplete, experience irritation in relation to yourself or others.
Exercise for the development of self -worth
This exercise is aimed at working out negative situations that can torment you for a long time, and then, never solved, go to the «cellars» of consciousness, poisoning your life for a long time.
Having accepted ourselves with all the mistakes, we break out of the closed circle of suffering and increase our own value. Having recognized the need for other people’s help, we eventually learn to manage our own, internal reserves, which are truly unlimited for a harmonious person.
- Formulate your feelings in relation to some unpleasant situation. Describe emotions and how physically they appear: pain, constraint, discomfort. Who is to blame for what happened?
- Remember the sensations that appeared in an uncomfortable situation. What did you experience? Why did you feel it? If you had your feelings, if before that you had a different life experience?
- How did you react to what happened? What did they do? Do you think that you acted correctly? Was it difficult for you to do just that? Think about how just your choice of line of behavior was.
- Try to understand yourself in this situation and accept the choice that you made at that moment. Feel this. Accept yourself in what happened, regardless of how serious the mistakes were.
- Do you need support for the analysis and adoption of the incident? As you think, whose support would be useful? Formulate what and from whom you would like to get, and try to ask for help from this person.
Body practice
You can also learn to support yourself through the body. Try in moments of doubt and despair to disconnect from thoughts, switch attention to the body and perform a little practice.
Mash the feet and walk with a feeling of heaviness in your legs, as if sticking your feet to the floor. Next, imagine that you are firmly standing on your feet. Feel the feet, breathe stomach, feel relaxation. Practice can be repeated for several months. The feeling of support under the feet and self -confidence will be strengthened day after day and will turn into a steady result.
So you can change your life, train inner peace and realize your own value.
